“The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love — whether we call it friendship or family or romance — is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light.” — James Baldwin

“You don’t earn loyalty in a day. You earn loyalty day-by-day.” — Jeffrey Gitomer

“Relationships are mysterious. We doubt the positive qualities in others, seldom the negative. You will say to your partner: do you really love me? Are you sure you love me? You will ask this a dozen times and drive the person nuts. But you never ask: are you really mad at me? Are you sure you’re angry? When someone is angry, you don’t doubt it for a moment. Yet the reverse should be true. We should doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive.” — Christopher Pike, Remember Me

“We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.” — Cornel West, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life


Time doesn’t heal anything when it comes to relationships.

The 4 horsemen of relationship apocalypse

Ask “What can I do to be a better ___ to you?” (partner, friend, son, etc.)


Two Pillars of Relationships

  • Outreach involves meeting new people and reconnecting with those you may not see regularly.
  • Connection focuses on nurturing deeper, more meaningful bonds with those already in your life.

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