“Temperament is more important than IQ. You need reasonable intelligence, but you absolutely have to have the right temperament. Otherwise, something will snap you.” — Warren Buffett
Emotional strength isn’t about getting rid of difficult feelings — it means you know how to respond to them in a healthy way — focus your attention on the actions that you can take to address your emotion, not the emotion itself. It’s not about managing your emotions; it’s about managing your response to your emotions.
Standing up for yourself without getting emotionally worked up (uptight).
Give yourself a fixed amount of time (~24 hours) to feel frustrated or angry about the failure. During this time, you don’t need to do anything but sit with the feelings and emotions. Allow yourself the grace of that period, but when the time is up, you move forward to study and start to learn from the failure. Don’t inflate the size of the failure in your mind—most failures are micro details, not macro issues.
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