“If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining. If it’s unendurable … then stop complaining. Your destruction will mean its end as well. Just remember: you can endure anything your mind can make endurable, by treating it as in your interest to do so. In your interest, or in your nature.” — Marcus Aurelius
“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.” (怨人者途遠，責己者行半，無戾者已至，此之謂也。)
If it’s within your control, go do something about it. 1 If it’s not, complaining is just a waste of energy.
Whatever it is, it’s your fault. (Extreme Ownership)
- As soon as I catch myself blaming anyone for anything, I decide it’s my fault/responsibility.
- Remember: You give power to who you blame. Never give your power to anyone else.
Nobody owes you anything at all.
If it’s always someone else’s fault, it’s probably your fault.
扛全責/負起所有責任 → Never make excuses. Excuses don’t get results.
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Either change the situation or change your attitude. ↩