“It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.” — Jim Rohn
“Between (triggering) stimulus and (emotional) response there is a space (gap). In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor E. Frankl
It’s not what happens to us that shapes our lives, but how we choose to respond.
Knowing when to stop is a superpower. You don’t need to attend every argument you’re invited to, nor should you waste your energy every time.
You are not the cause of everything that happens to you, but you are responsible for how you respond to everything that happens to you.
Most of life’s conflicts come from people reacting to situation father than responding to it. Man who cannot control his words cannot control himself.
Example:
- REACTING
- Person 1: “Why did you do it like that?”
- Person 2: “What do you mean? What’s wrong with how l’ve done it?”
- RESPONDING
- Person 1: “Why did you do it like that?”
- Person 2: “I did it like that because I’ve done it in a similar way before - it’s the most efficient method.”
To follow up an error with a foolish reaction is to lose twice.
Progressive Aggression: By reacting to aggression with aggression we lose the opportunity to spiritually benefit from the experience.
The Two Arrows
In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our REACTION to the first. The second arrow is always optional.
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