We are what we believe we are.” — C.S. Lewis
“The only thing that keeps us from having what we really want is the stories we tell ourselves.” — Tony Robbins
“The most important conversations you’ll ever have are the ones you’ll have with yourself. — You wake up with them, you walk around with them, you go to bed with them, and eventually you act on them.” ― David Goggins
“The reason I talk to myself is because I’m the only one whose answers I accept.” — George Carlin
= Internal Monologue
The most powerful word is the one you use to talk to yourself. The most important conversations you have in life are the ones you have with yourself. Make them positive and constructive. Don’t say something to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else.
On the one hand, don’t say something to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else. On the other hand, the way you speak to others is the way you speak to yourself.
Never say, I’ll never…
If you say you can. Yes, you can! If you say you can’t. Yes, you’re right!
自證預言 = 自我實現預言 = 自我應驗預言 = Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
The quality of your stories impacts the quality of your life.
- If you tell yourself you aren’t capable, you won’t try.
- If you tell yourself you aren’t worthy, you won’t reach for it.
- If you tell yourself you’re a static entity, you won’t attempt to grow.
So often, it’s not the sheer difficulty of achieving something that stops you—it’s the ease of continuing to tell yourself the story that you can’t. Don’t be the one to tell yourself no.
The yet Mindset
“Not the ‘not,’ but the ‘not yet.’ — [@markaurelMeditations2006]
- “I’m not good enough” → “I’m not good enough…yet.”
- “I don’t know how to do it” → “I don’t know how to do it…yet.”
- “I’m not capable of that” → “I’m not capable of that…yet.”
“I can’t.” → “I don’t.”
- Instead of ‘I can’t check social media at work,’ try ‘I don’t check social media at work.’
- Replace ‘I can’t skip my workouts’ with ‘I don’t skip my workouts.‘
Self-criticism → Self-compassion
- There will never be anybody else in the world that can be as brutal to you as you can to yourself. You’re your worst enemy.
- We tend to be our own biggest critic.
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